Protecting Yourself
Recently, I have been having a hard time balancing protecting myself and opening up to people. I want to talk about how I have been working through this. Over time we all go through events that hurt us and leave us feeling distrustful.
I think in order to find a balance we first have to trust ourselves and set a foundation for what we expect from ourselves and others. If you make certain promises to yourself for example; to start or stop certain habits but you don’t keep those promises. How can you expect other people to keep their promises to you or yours to others? It’s completely unfair.
First, we must hold ourselves accountable when making goals. Make the relationship we have with ourselves the most important one of all. By pushing our own limits to love, learn, and explore.
Be different and accept your unique qualities/ get comfortable with the fact not everyone is meant for you and vise Virsa. Acquired tastes are some of the best things in life dark chocolate, sushi, wine I mean comeee on! Be passionate, bold, be whoever the hell you want. Own it. I live by the saying “act confident and no one will question you” which is true mostly due to the reality that everyone is more worried about themselves than anyone else. Once you know, love and trust yourself you can open up and let people into your aura.
This is the most important reminder I have learned for myself when letting people in.
Set your boundaries.
If someone disrespects your boundaries wish them well and move on. If they disrupt your energy do not feel shameful about removing them from your life. It doesn’t mean that you have any bad blood with them but that you simple can let them go because they aren’t benefiting your journey.
Creating confidence in what you will allow in your life is incredibly freeing. The people who don’t understand these things don’t have a place in your life, and that’s okay.
The way they treat you is a representation of who THEY ARE, genuine actions and communication is key. It took me awhile to realize that their is no shame in loving with every piece of myself fiercely and letting myself fall hard. Even if it breaks me sometimes I would rather have loved and been broken than never have loved at all. Be open minded to what can blossom when you let the right people into your life.
Finding this balance is a daily practice and there is no time line so don’t worry when your progress isn’t linear. Most importantly remember to trust yourself, set boundaries, and be open to the highs + lows you may experience on this journey.
Love + light,
Xx Jordan